Monday, August 10, 2009

So many theories, so little time.

There are WAY too many books on childrearing available. Not to mention the almighty internet. What's a girl to do? Honestly - one book says feed your baby every two hours, another says feed her when she's hungry. One article says put your baby to bed at 7pm and let her wail until she falls asleep, another says let her make her own sleep schedule. Pacifier or no pacifier?

I just don't want to Create A Monster. Ya know? Things are fine now, but what about in a month or two? What we're doing now could totally have a bad, really bad, rebound affect. It's mind boggling to think that my decision to Let Her Cry or Let Her Sleep could affect how well she learns or sleeps when she's a high schooler. However, I think we've taken the best approach - just cross our fingers and hope for the best. That's responsible parenting, isn't it?

Here's something that one book frowns upon and another grins:

LadyBug loves to fall asleep in her swing. Especially outside in the shade with the warm breeze while her parents work diligently pulling weeds and drink cool refreshing beer.

But one thing we do know, a good nap for her produces these kinds of smiles:

11 comments:

Jen said...

Jillian slept all night in her swing for the first 4-5 months. Pretty sure the parenting books aren't cool with that one either. My motto is you do what you have to (within reason of course!).

To answer your camping question, this past weekend was our first time out with Jillian. But that is really just because it was our first opportunity since she was born. I've been on camping trips with babies as young as 2 weeks, although I'm not personally that brave. I probably wouldn't have taken Jillian until she was about 4 months or so and pass her super fussy phase.

Clio said...

ahhh, that smile!! :)))
it must be maddening to get all this conflicting information. I guess you should trust your instincts and learn from your daughter as you go. Crossing fingers should work too ;)

Wade and Ericka said...

...and what a pretty smile that is! Yay for pics!

Hey, my approach is to do what I *think* is right until it feels really wrong or until I start getting that Mother Guilt, and then freak out like a "banshee woman" (that's what the hubs calls me) until my husband can reassure me that I'm a good mom.

I wish there really was a handbook on parenting, but I think it's all just speculation and lucky guesses.

MNgal said...

I've been worrying too. But I,ve kinda come to the conclusion that I have to take it one day at a time. Case in point, when I first brought my sweet Kate home, she slept in bed with me. I got yelled at by my sisters, mom,dad, and probably God. But, you've got to do what's right for you. BTW, your daughter is absolutely lovely.

MNgal said...

I've been worrying too. But I,ve kinda come to the conclusion that I have to take it one day at a time. Case in point, when I first brought my sweet Kate home, she slept in bed with me. I got yelled at by my sisters, mom,dad, and probably God. But, you've got to do what's right for you. BTW, your daughter is absolutely lovely.

MNgal said...

I've been worrying too. But I,ve kinda come to the conclusion that I have to take it one day at a time. Case in point, when I first brought my sweet Kate home, she slept in bed with me. I got yelled at by my sisters, mom,dad, and probably God. But, you've got to do what's right for you. BTW, your daughter is absolutely lovely.

areyoukiddingme said...

I think the whole point of the parenting exercise is to keep producing those smiles. So, read the books, listen to the advice, be informed...and then do whatever works for you and especially for your LadyBug.

Our girl was pretty good at sleeping until she grew out of the swaddle. Then, it was the swing that would do the trick.

Trace said...

Lovey Girl just happened to be wearing the same exact outfit today (both of them look adorable). As for what to do, I don't really know. We feed her every 3 hours, but we're doing formula so that's last longer than breast feeding (I'm not sure which you're doing). I mostly worry about overfeeding her because she is so rounded. Good luck!

Martha said...

She is so beautiful. Sorry for all the a$$vice. Trust your instincts, nobody knows Ladybug better than you and her Daddy.

Sarah said...

She is absolutely gorgeous!

tryingin2007 said...

she is a beauty!

she looks like you!

:)